I finally got to bury my beloved mother On April 2017, after going through the most horrible experience in the hands of the Coroner’s office just to get her death certificate to facilitate release of her body from the hospital to family members for burial. Her sudden death at work caused so much pain, which was made even worse by the high-handed and insensitive manner the Office of the Coroner handled the situation.
Time, they say is a healer, but the pain never fully goes away. We grow and learn to manage the pain left behind by the sudden, avoidable death of a loved one. Sometimes we fill the void left by the death of a loved one with unhealthy habits to mask the pain. However, there comes a time when we must accept our loss and move on to live our lives fully again, while honouring the memories of our beloved ones.
Laying my mum to rest and giving her a befitting burial meant I got the opportunity to say goodbye and seek closure. I finally let go of all the ‘could have beens’ and ‘what ifs’, instead, I chose to celebrate the beautiful memories we made together and the full life she lived.
Thank you, mum, for all your love and care. You live on in my Heart and all of your children and grandchildren.
Related Link- For My Mum: You Will Always Have A Home In My Heart
chigau (違う) says
RIP, Beatrice.
Tabby Lavalamp says
I missed your original post. My condolences on your loss, and my sympathies for what you have to go through after.
Yemisi Ilesanmi says
@chigau (違う -- Thank you.
Yemisi Ilesanmi says
@Tabby Lavalamp -- Thank you.
jazzlet says
I too have experienced the intractable, glacial pace of the Coroner’s Office, although it didn’t take five months for us. Sorry, it really is an awful burden to deal with on top of an unexpected loss. I am glad you have been able to lay your mum to rest at last.
Yemisi Ilesanmi says
@jazzlet -- It was indeed a nightmare. tHank you for your kind words.