Self Harm: Anxiety is taxing

I recently read a FemPositive item from November 2018 about anxiety and the forms it can take.  And while she doesn’t mention all types of mental health issues, they’re certainly included.  I didn’t do the same as her, but I understand her words.

I had my own nervous tics when I was younger.  My hands suffered endless knuckle cracking and nailbiting, but the skin stayed intact.  It was my lips and inner cheeks that suffere, biting and pulling skin to the point of bleeding.  I now only bite my cheeks when nervous.

I have friends with bipolar and other issues, and their compulsive behaviours are obvious even to the untrained eye.  One of my coworkers (not a friend) has an obsessive habit of clicking her pens, 10-20 times per minute.  All day.  Every day.

Woman’s Facebook Post Shows That Anxiety Is So Much More Than An Inability To Relax

The conversations around mental health, fortunately, are becoming more open in today’s society. People are getting more comfortable to talk about their mental health problems and issues, although not everyone experiences them the same. This difference in people’s experiences doesn’t discredit anyone’s pain and struggle in life.

For some people anxiety manifests with panic attacks and hyperventilation, for others, it is simply the inability to relax. For others, all the symptoms are more severe.

Facebook user Megan Lynne Ferrero decided to openly share her experience with anxiety and it went viral because of so many people related to her story.

Ferrero posted a photo of what her hands look like after biting her nails due to anxiety.

 

I Hope I Die…: People over 30 are too old

Well, that’s according to a voluntary survey, anyway.  I turn 53 next month and I’m still dancing until all hours at clubs, though I couldn’t name you a single hit song of the past ten years.

Deezer, a music streaming service, said (in 2018) that on average people hit the wall around 30. I was still into new music and listened to everything until I moved abroad at age 34 (2001) and got “set in my ways” around 37-38.  I was physically isolated from new Canadian or foreign music for years. After I started clubbing again, I thought, “This ‘music’ sucks!” but I still dance anyway.

I live for 1980s parties.

Something Strange Happens To Your Taste In Music At Age 30

There’s a reason your grandparents still listen to Elvis, your mom still loves Bon Jovi, and you still have a strange affiliation with the crap bands you liked when you were 14.

A recent survey by the music streaming service Deezer asked 1,000 people in the UK about their musical preferences and their streaming habits. According to their findings, people tend to experience a “musical paralysis” at around the age of 30.5, whereby they stop listening to new artists or genres and tend to stick to what they know.

Musical discovery peaks at an average age of 24 years and five months, although women generally hit this peak around a year earlier. At this age, almost 75 percent of respondents said they checked out 10 or more new tracks per week, and 64 percent said they listened to five or more new artists every month. Around 60 percent of people feel like they are in a music rut and struggle to break out of playing the same old artists over and over again.

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There is possibly another factor at play. During our younger years, especially as teenagers, we are the most influenced by the music around us. In The New York Times, data scientist Seth Stephens-Davidowitz wrote about how the songs that were popular in our teenage years, particularly between the ages of 11 to 14, tends to remain our most streamed songs on Spotify.

One funny thing: I’ve heard it said that the number 1 song on your 14th birthday defines your life.  I thought it was a load of codswallop until I found out what mine was.  It turns out to be true for most people I know.

“The Tide Is High” was #1 in Canada, the middle of February, 1981:

Dig Deeper: The back story of the DC Sniper is fascinating

I was recently pointed towards a podcast called “You’re Wrong About”, and their episode on the Beltway/DC Sniper shootings of 2002.  The episode is 110 minutes long, but worth listening to.

It wasn’t “domestic terrorism” and had nothing to do with islam. It was “domestic violence” (aka Intimate Partner Violence) and everything to do with a custody dispute.

Mildred Muhammed, ex-wife of John Allen Muhammed, is a fascinating and heroic person.

US police proved themselves incompetent once again.  If they had taken IPV seriously, the seventeen victims would still be alive.

And the first victim of the DC Sniper is the most important, overlooked because no one wants to examine IPV seriously.  The story of the shootings is eerily reminiscent of Agatha Christie’s book, “The A.B.C. Murders”.

Preliminary Report: Tsai Ing-wen is likely to be re-elected

The resutls of Taiwan’s national election (yes, it is a country) are not yet complete, but every intermediate count is showing the same result: Tsai Ing-wen (DPP) leads with over 58% of the presidential vote, with Han Guo-yu (KMT) second at 38%, and James Soong (PFP) a distant third at 4%.

Update: Multiple scources report a voter turnout rate of 74.9%, this despite the fact that many people must travel to vote.  Unless people own property, they are required to vote where they grew up, a silly rule that needs to change.  Citizens are required to give the governmwnt their new address if they move, so the government knows where everyone is.  Let them vote where they live.

Preliminary voting counts were not allowed before 4PM when the polls closed.  Yes, that’s unusually early compared to other countries, but voter turnout is still high.  Taiwan is a single time zone and 90% of the population lives on the western side, so there was no risk of an east coast bias like there is in Canada or the US.  But it’s still a good idea to ban early returns to avoid morning voters influencing afternoon voters.

The News Lens is reporting live results as they come in.  The restriction on early vote counts has meant people are all checking the internet at the same time. Since 4PM until now (7PM as I write) several news websites have crashed from overloading.

All of the west coast counties have voted for Tsai except two, Miaoli and Hsinchu, which are farming districts.  Hsinchu City is where the industrial parks (i.e. computer and other industries) are based, so I would have expected them to lean rightward but instead they voted for Tsai.  (In those counties, Han only leads Tsai 50% to 45%.)  The east coast counties of Hualien and Taitung and two island counties (Kinmen, Lienchiang) are predominantly fishing and traditionally conservative areas, so it’s not surprising that they voted for Han.

The biggest surprise thus far is southern Taiwan. The southern half has always been KMT territory and pro-unification. Han was the mayor of Kaohsiung and rode a southern wave of popularity, yet he lost in his home district. He and his party’s repeated incompetence didn’t help matters.  All candidates are assigned a number, and voters choose them at the polls.  Han’s campaign chose to place 9, 2, and 1 together in a campaign ad, which angered people almost as much as using 911 in the US would (the September 21, 1999 eathquake that killed 2400).  Han inferrred recently that Tsai would bring dictatorship and invoked the “white terror”, ignoring the fact that it was his KMT that perpetrated the white terror.  And it came to light in the last week that Han had been seeking dual Canadian citizenship, something not allowed for presidential candidates.

It’s almost as if the KMT were trying to self-destruct.

The Stars Look Down: Neil Peart, dead at 67

When I first saw the headline reporting Neil Peart’s death, I was hoping it was “fake news”, but when CBC and others were listed as sources, I accepted it.

Peart was always a private man who kept his personal life out of the media.  When his first child died in 1997 and first wife in 1998, he asked for privacy and spent years away. I’m really not surprised that he never publicly revealed his diagnosis.  I wonder how long he knew and if he was in contact with Gord Downie during his last days.

Neil Peart, drummer and primary lyricist for Rush, dead at 67

Neil Peart, the virtuoso drummer of iconic Canadian band Rush who was revered by fans and fellow musicians as one of the greatest drummers of all time, has died at age 67.

The influential musician and lyricist died Tuesday in Santa Monica, Calif., after having been diagnosed with brain cancer, according to a statement issued Friday by family spokesperson Elliot Mintz.

His death was confirmed by Meg Symsyk, a media spokesperson for the progressive rock trio comprising Peart, Geddy Lee and Alex Lifeson.

“It is with broken hearts and the deepest sadness that we must share the terrible news that on Tuesday our friend, soul brother and bandmate of over 45 years, Neil, has lost his incredibly brave three-and-a-half-year battle with brain cancer,” his bandmates said in a statement.

They also called for privacy for Peart’s family and urged fans wanting to express their condolences to make a donation in his name to a cancer research group or charity of their choice.

“Rest in peace, brother.”

I thought I would be more upset than I am, but as I get older, I’ve gotten more philosophical and accepting of the inevitable. I’m just glad for what was.

Remember in the 1970s when being openly gay or queer (never mind being Transgender) was “shocking”?  Any time a celebrity came out, it was a message to young people everywhere, “You’re not weird or wrong.  There are other people like you.”

Peart, and Rush as a whole, were the same for me in the 1970s and 1980s: They said the things I felt, held the same points of view.  They told me I wasn’t the only one in the world, that there were others who felt the same way.  And it made living in a world of oppression just a little bit easier.  I will always be grateful to him.

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Fire Bugs: They’re war criminals, not arsonists

It has been revealed that 24 scumbags have intentionally started bushfires in Australia, that 180 have been involved.

The World Court need to stop viewing crimes against the environment as property crime and treat it as a crime against humanity and nature. If destroying “history and culture” is a war crime, why not also destroying land, air and ocean, for making it uninhabitable and unable to sustain life?

24 charged with intentionally setting Australia bushfires

As Australia battles bushfires that have cost more than than two dozen lives, thousands of homes and other structures, and millions of dollars, police have charged at least 24 people for allegedly setting some of those fires intentionally.

The New South Wales Police Force says it has taken legal action against more than 180 people for 205 bushfire-related offenses since November 8, 2019.

Among the 180 who face legal actions, 24 are accused of deliberately setting fires. Fifty-three are people who allegedly failed to comply with a total fire ban, and 47 allegedly discarded lit cigarettes or matches.

Selfish smokers are partially responsible.  Colour me unsurprised.  That’s how the Notre Dame fire happened.

Environmental crimes should be prosecuted the same as war crimes. This isn’t arson, this is Chernobyl and Bhopal.

Data Mine: Never ascribe to malice….

…What can be explained by arrogance, greed, stupidity and bad programming.

Two days ago, I was locked out of my facebook account.  Normally that would lead to the inevitable question, “what did you do?” because oft times those who get locked out or barred from places did something to warramt it.  Pleading innocence is easy.

I was locked out four years to the day that I created the account.  Exactly that date, which tells me it’s probably a scripted event to force data collection.  I had never given anything more than my email account – no scans of ID, no cell phone number, nothing.

I went through their “verification” nonsense (e.g. giving my cell phone number and getting “text verification” so they can sell a valid number to advertisers) and still don’t have the account back two days later.  They probably want a picture of ID too.  Like hell.  I will NOT be forced to use a deadname I never asked for.

I have the advantage of being able to visit the fascistbook office in Taipei (about 10km away). Most people who have been locked out and robbed of their accounts won’t.  They’ll be screwed out of their data through no fault of their own with no recourse.  The perils of dealing with unregulated corporations; phone companies are better regulated in how they treat customers and users.

Fortunately, I periodically download everything.  I won’t have lost my friends list, at least, except for the one or two most recent.

Sympathy Vote: Give Weinstein an oscar

Pervy Weinstein has shown up at court using a walker, trying to pretend he’s elderly, disabled and unfit to stand trial.  That’s odd because he was perfectly capable of walking into a comedy club not a month ago….

Harvey Weinstein Has Been Charged In Los Angeles For Rape And Sexual Assault

Weinstein was charged with one felony count each of forcible rape, forcible oral copulation, sexual penetration by use of force, and sexual battery by restraint.

Disgraced Hollywood mogul Harvey Weinstein was indicted Monday for raping one woman and sexually assaulting another in Los Angeles, the same day his sex assault trial kicked off in New York City.

Los Angeles prosecutors charged Weinstein in separate incidents over a two-day period in 2013.

Weinstein was charged with one felony count each of forcible rape, forcible oral copulation, sexual penetration by use of force, and sexual battery by restraint.

Weinstein isn’t the first to attempt criminal malingering in a fraudulent attempt to obtain leniency. Vincent “The Chin” Gigante did it, so have Augusto Pinochet, Bill Cosby, and other less famous individuals.

If those like Weinstein are so incapable of causing future harm, then they will pose no danger to others in prison.  They’re easier to incarcerate, so there’s all the more reason to do it.

What Were They Wearing: There are no “accidental” shootings

There are no “accidental” shootings, only careless.

A 30 year old man and his 9 year old daughter are dead in South Carolina after being shot by other members of their own hunting party. The two dead were herding deer for a planned shoot.

Thus far, the coroner and others have given no indication whether the two were wearing bright fluorescent colours (deemed “optional” in South Carolina), and whether the killer made any attempt to have a clear view before shooting.  Given the unwillingness to address either point, I suspect the worst on both.

The Colleton County Coroner’s Office said 30-year-old Kim Drawdy and 9-year-old Lauren Drawdy died Wednesday in a hunting accident.

By Live 5 Web Staff | January 6, 2020 at 12:18 PM EST – Updated January 6 at 1:21 PM

COLLETON COUNTY, S.C. (WCSC) – Details from the autopsy report were released Monday in the Colleton County hunting accident which left a father and daughter dead on New Year’s Day.

According to coroner Richard Harvey, both 30-year-old Kim Drawdy and 9-year-old Lauren Drawdy died from buckshot pellet wounds to the chest.

The pair were killed on New Year’s Day in a wooded area on Barracada Road near Walterboro.

An SCDNR spokeswoman said the Drawdys and two other hunters were deer driving, moving deer near to the area where they were set up to hunt.

According to DNR officials, one of the hunters mistook the Drawdys for deer and shot and killed them. Investigators have not said why the victims were mistaken for deer.

You have to wonder how someone shoots without knowing what’s in range, without communicating with the others, without planning the entire event.  And if the father didn’t put on fluorescent clothes, WHY not?

Life Sentence: Criminal masterminds, they weren’t

The first verdict has been handed down in the August 2018 murder of Sanjay Ryan Ramgahan.

Israeli-American Oren Shlomo Mayer was found guilty for planning the murder and carrying out the most brutal parts of the crime (strangulation and instigating the dismemberment of Ramgahan’s body).  Mayer will likely receive life without parole but not the death penalty, despite the fact that the murder was motivated by drug dealing (a capital crime in Taiwan).  Those involved admitted they murdered Ramgahan because they suspected he was a police informant.

American Ewart Odane Bent confessed and testified against Mayer, showing again that there is no honour among thieves.  Bent will likely receive a 12 year sentence.

Taiwanese-Canadian Wu Hsuan (吳宣 aka Daniel Wu) and American Jason Hobbie were also tried but there is no verdict as yet. They are likely to also receive significant sentences, the difference being Wu is unlikely to be deported after release.

Good riddance.

Now if only something were done about the other foreigners involved in trading marijuana and other drugs.

As Luck Would Have It: I have a New Year’s Eve photo

White rabbits. White rabbits. White rabbits.

I don’t believe in luck or superstition at all, but I do believe in having fun and in shameless self promotion.  I hope telling Taiwanese people about a NA/Euro superstition isn’t cultural imperialism.

I hated December holidays as a kid because from December 24 to January 2, the sperm and egg donors would drag us off to the catholic crutch seven or eight times in ten days unless the 25th and 1st were on Sundays.  Then it was only five.  They knew every blinking catholic “saint day”.

As an adult, I can go nightclubbing on New Year’s Eve.  Not because I want to drink and dance (well, I do) but because the walls keep the noise out.  Unpredictable fireworks give me headaches, while nightclub noise is consistent and earplugs make it easy to cope.

May 2020 be better than 2019 was.  Never say “It couldn’t be any worse” because it probably will be.

Finally, a trip down memory lane: an old favourite from my childhood that always makes me happy, and arguably the greatest one hit wonder of all time: Edison Lighthouse, “Love Grows (Where My Rosemary Goes)”,  released on January 9, 1970.  It’s hard to think of this song as fifty years old, but it is.

True Love Exists: Utah man found dead in a freezer for ten years

As seen on “News Of The Weird”:

Jeanne Souron-Mathers died in November 2019 of natural causes in her apartment, found after a welfare check.  In the apartment, inside a freezer, the ten year old body of her husband Paul Edward Mathers was also found along with a notarized and signed letter saying that he had agreed to this.

Utah man found in freezer left notarized letter absolving wife in death, police say

A Utah man whose body was found in a freezer following his wife’s death last month may have written a letter — and had it notarized — absolving his wife of blame in his death more than a decade ago, authorities said.

The body of Paul Edward Mathers was found hidden in his wife’s freezer Nov. 22 when a maintenance man in Jeanne Souron-Mathers’s Tooele retirement community became concerned after not seeing her for two weeks. Police officers who responded for a welfare check found Souron-Mathers, 75, dead of natural causes.

They found Mathers during a routine search of the apartment. According to the Salt Lake Tribune, Mathers, who was 58 when he was last seen in 2009, was identified through fingerprints.

Sgt. Jeremy Hansen of the Tooele Police Department told Fox13 in Salt Lake City that investigators who found Mathers in the freezer also found a letter stating his wife did not kill him.

“It was notarized on Dec. 2, 2008,” Hansen told the news station. “We believe he had a terminal illness.”

By hiding Mr. Mathers body, Mrs. Mathers continued to receive pension and veterans affairs benefits.  She would likely have been left homeless and without income at age 65 in modern day murrica.  Cue the US government’s attempts to “recover” the US$157,000 plus interest from surviving relatives.

Hate Kills: Leelah Alcorn died on December 28, 2014, age 17

Leelah Alcorn (November 15, 1997 – December 28, 2014) was a Transgender teen girl from Ohio who had the misfortune of having fanatical fundamentalist christian parents.  She came out to them as Transgender, but soon after they made their intent clear: they were going to subject her to the abuse and torture of “reparative therapy”.  In despair, Leelah wrote a suicide note, and later walked into the path of a tractor trailer, killed instantly.

In the days before her death, her “parents” took her out of school, deleted her facebook account, took away her cell phone and all means of communicating with her friends. Her friends loved and accepted Leelah for who she was.

I don’t give a damn that the “official cause of death” was suicide.  Leelah’s parents hate and religion murdered her.

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Cancer Sticks: The first and last ‘marlboro man’ has died

Between 1954 to 1999, six different men played the “marlboro man” in advertising, pretending to be cowboys in an attempt to sell a toxic product to toxic masculinity.

Of the six, five were heavy smokers and died of smoking related illness: Wayne McLaren, David MacLean, Eric Lawson, Tobin Jackson, Dick Hammer. The cigarettes earned the nickname “cowboy killers”.

The very first “marlboro man” in 1954 was Robert Norris.  He died in November 2019, at age 90. Norris was a lifelong non-smoker.

So why was he selling that crap?

Original ‘Marlboro Man’ Robert ‘Bob’ Norris has died

The rancher…best known for playing the original “Marlboro Man” has died after a life spent not smoking.

Robert ‘Bob’ Norris died in the care of Pikes Peak Hospice in Colorado Springs, Colorado, on Nov. 3, according to a statement released by Tee Cross Ranches, which he founded. Norris was 90.

Norris, who was “never a smoker,” was featured in the commercials for 14 years, according to the statement. He abandoned the advertising campaign when Norris “felt he was setting a poor example for his children,” the statement added.