I know we have a lot of polyamorous people on this network, and people who are not interested in long term relationships, but that’s not me. I’m a devotedly monogamous kind of guy, and today is our 36th wedding anniversary, so I had to do some math. (Isn’t that everyone’s response to important dates?)
Percent of my life spent married to one person: 61%
Whoa. That’s disappointing. That number is just not big enough. So I had to fudge it a bit. We started seriously dating in 1976, so…
Percent of my life spent romantically involved with that person: 68%
That didn’t help much. Only 2/3 of my life? She’s so much more.
But hey, I met her for the first time in third grade, so maybe I can nudge it up further.
Percent of my life knowing that person: 86%
That really feels like cheating. She was just that other kid in class who was better at math than I was, so that shouldn’t count.
I know 100% is mathematically impossible because there were those 8 empty years where I didn’t even know she existed, but I have to strive for a percentage that approximates her importance. At least 99%. I estimate that in order to reach the point where I have spent 99% of my life married to Mary, all I have to do is live to be 2300 years old. And she has to live that long too, or there’s no point.
We can do that. Easy.
Then maybe we can aim for 99.9%.