What does that even mean? According to this person asking Dan Savage for sex advice, having sex like a scientist is not so good:
He’s a scientist, and he has sex like a scientist. He’s not a good kisser, but worse, he flies through foreplay like its his weekend chore list, and goes straight to the fucking as quick as he can. He’s a voracious bottom, which should work out for me, but in the end, I’m always left finishing off alone. He always comes within minutes, and the whole time does nothing sexy, does nothing to help me along. In fact he does lots of stuff that turns me off. I’ve never lost hard-ons during sex until I was with him. I might as well be a cucumber glued to a body pillow, he’d have about the same interaction.
That’s what this person thinks having sex like a scientist is like?! Man, I’m hurt.
Not that professions necessarily affect your sex lives, but this doesn’t even make sense. Science is effectively based on making observations, experimenting, gathering data, and then correcting your theories through further experimentation. Not to mention reading the literature before setting up any experiments. Sounds like a recipe for a great sex life to me.
Now, engineers, on the other hand…
Better than sex like a cartoonist (it’s all in our hands).THANK YOU! I’m here every Wednesday. Try the veal.
Yes…science is all about exploration and testing new techniques. Sounds like this dude is just plain bad in bed.
Hey now, you watch what you are saying about engineers. Can’t have a proper sex machine with out a Mechanical Engineer!
http://www.smbc-comics.com/ind…I must confess that in this narrow instance, as a male, I really do feel cheated. Though I’m not an engineer, I am a device enthusiast.
Yeah, that’s utterly bizarre. I agree completely, applying the scientific mode of thought is a gateway to an interesting sex life. I try not to spend too much time noting observations in my lab notebook (kidding), but it’s all about experimenting, observing reactions, and then coming up with new experiments to test hypotheses (hmm…what happens if you use these two toys together?). Now, if I can just figure out how to use these Erlenmeyer flasks…..I love reading letters to Savage (used to produce his radio show, actually, quite a hoot) but it does remind one occasionally that there are some strange and often sad folks out there.
I’m a writer, not a scientist. But I have a very observe-y and scientific brain. When I have sex, I’m flooded with the experience. I have a hypothesis I want to test out and I observe the reaction. Heart rate increases, blood flows to areas. Her scent enters my nose and I know I’m onto something. I go off on a tangent but that doesn’t yield the right results so I gather more data…Sigh.
I freely admit to the mental drawing of free-body diagrams prior to engaging in coitus.
It’s not the length of the vector, but the amount of positive force you apply, amirite?
A lot of the comments on that article argued that sex like a scientist would be a GOOD thing — constant experimentation, refinement of data, etc :)
“Not that professions necessarily effect your sex lives, but this doesn’t even make sense.”Ahem. *affect*Anyway, yeah, that is kind of ridiculous.
I swear that’s a typo and that I really know the difference!…Fixed >.>
Yeah, I would think that being science-minded would make someone more interested in experimenting….
Engineers, on the other hand, figure out the most cost-effective ways to do as many times as possible and as good as possible.
Dan hit the nail on the head (aside from the denying the letter writer’s partner sex for 6 months thing, what the hell?) about communication. Why are you telling Dan all of this instead of your partner? Forget the slandering of scientists as poor lovers, this letter pisses me off because it’s something that I see way too often in gossip rags and even in conversations with friends. This idea that great sex should come as naturally as breathing, with no effort or communication at all. That someone you’ll pick up on each other’s psychic pheromones and know exactly where to do what and how hard/for how long.Children, please. If you’re still having bad sex and you’re not in high school, you’ve got no one to blame but yourself.
If you add a lever arm it could create a moment. Alternatively, the moment could arise from a couple.
maybe his boyfriend is bad in bed because he feels insecure about being a terrible scientist.
Now engineers, on the other hand…Engineers do everything you said scientists do, except we ALSO take the extra step optimize all variables for the most desirable – and pleasurable – experience! With that in mind, I submit the following suggested t-shirt slogans:- “Scientists do it rigorously”- “Engineers do it optimally”…and the less flattering…- “Biologists do it with lab rats”- “Engineers do it with MATLAB”
hmmm … i’m not reading all the comments, but my girlfriend and I are physicists and we have had a lot of kinky sex with all sorts of tools and implements in a lot of states, countries, and locations with satisfying results for all parties. So I think this one scientist is bad at sex.
I used to use a flask as a decanter (and beakers for glasses) until it broke. That’s one option. I like mixing drinks and sex anyway.
Let’s go to the flowchart for this.
The Affect Effect strikes again!
“he has sex like a scientist”To me this would imply a lot of curiosity, experimentation, and empirical tests of turn-ons.I think what the writer meant was “he has sex like the clumsy, socially incompetent, and robotically uncreative stereotype of nerds (such as scientists)”.(TMI P.S.: I’m a physicist who has bottomed, and whatever faults I may have in bed, they are probably just about the exact opposite ones from that guy.)
Speaking as an engineer, I see nothing wrong with your supposition.
Seriously. Whenever I read these sex advice questions the first thing I think of is “Have you tried, you know, talking about it?” Obviously there’s more going on in this relationship than just not talking about sex. The whole “he’s a scientist and has sex like a scientist” thing is indicative of a larger problem. There’s a lack of respect one way or the other, and some real bitterness. These guys need to have a conversation.
Just call your “lab notebook” a “journal of sexual and spiritual discovery” and then it’s acceptable.
I must submit my own anecdotal evidence that sex and a career in science are NOT linked – I’ve had good and bad sex with scientist partners. (Hot neuroscientists…. mmmm) And to be fair, some of the hottest, craziest sex I’ve ever had was with a girl who believed in Edgar Cayce and alternative medicine.
That’s more like “having sex like an insensitive prick.” Some people think scientists are ALL insensitive pricks and ignore morality, etc etc but I disagree. Some do, some don’t And some people have good sex and some don’t. And SOMETIMES it’s just your preferences that are not in sync!
That guy is no scientist! If he was his first move would have been to conduct a review of the leterature ! Then he could have figured out what others have done in the past and what worked and what didn’t. Get a new partner!
Not to mention the application of lubricants to get the proper coefficient of friction.
That is, however, exactly what it’s like to have sex with a nerd rap musician guy. #attentionsingleladies
VerseBefore you leave these portalsTo meet less fortunate mortals,There’s just one final messageI would give to you.You all have learned relianceOn the sacred teachings of science,So I hope, through life, you never will declineIn spite of philistineDefinaceTo do what all good scientists do.RefrainExperiment.Make it your motto day and night.ExperimentAnd it will lead you to the light.The apple on the top of the treeIs never too high to achieve,So take an example from Eve,Experiment.Be curious,Though interfering friends may frown.Get furiousAt each attempt to hold you down.If this advice you always employThe future can offer you infinite joyAnd merriment,ExperimentAnd you’ll see[Revised version for the film MISSISSIPPI BELLE (1943-44)]ExperimentVerseAs I was leaving high schoolMy pet professor of my schoolSaid: My dear, one parting message I would give to you.By now you’ve learned relianceOn the sacred teachings of science,So I hope, through life, you never will decline,In spite of philistineDefinaceTo do what all good scientists do.Refrain 1 [Same As Original Refrain]InterludeAnd now, each one of you, doLet me adapt this ditty to you.Refrain 2Experiment.Whenever doubtful take a chance.ExperimentAnd you’ll discover sweet romance.When in a state of ignorant blissRegarding a creatrue you crave’Tis folly, my friend, to behave,Experiment,Be curious,And when you’ve picked a perfect wife,Get furiousTill she is yours and yours for life.If this you do (and no cock-and-bull)In time she may give you a nurs’ry full*Of merriment.ExperimentAnd you’ll see.*Or alternate line:The future may give you a nurs’ry fullCole Porter – 1933
A favorite book of mine is “How We Do It: How the Science of Sex Can Make You a Better Lover” Written by Judy Dutton http://www.randomhouse.com/cat…Science + sex = good sex!
I must agree with all above comments this man was no mad scientist at all, just a dull one.
Maybe they do it by doing exact calculations of every position. It’s better than doing it with a chemist.Buy Viagra
I know this is an old post, but I must comment: I’m married to a research engineer, and…ahem…*blushes* …he’s pretty good at figuring out complex systems.