When it comes to relationships, many feel if it wasn’t for bad luck they’d have no luck at all. Gloom, despair, and agony on end. But Cranach at Patheos directs us to better odds:
UChicago News — Meeting online has become an increasingly common way to find a partner, with opportunities arising through social networks, exchanges of email, instant messages, multi-player games and virtual worlds, in which people “live” on the site through avatars. The research shows that couples who met online were more likely to have higher marital satisfaction and lower rates of marital breakups than relationships that began in face-to-face meetings.
Marriage breakups were reported in about 6 percent of the people who met online, compared with 7.6 percent of the people who met offline. Marriages for people who met online reported a mean score of 5.64 on a satisfaction survey, compared with a score of 5.48 for people who met offline. The survey was based on questions about their happiness with their marriage and degree of affection, communication and love for each other.
Well, that tears it. I’ve been going about this all wrong. I guess I’ll head right over to Ourtime. Or you young whipper-snappers should sign into WoW –or whatever MMORPG is the bomb right now — and start trolling for a soul-mate.
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I wouldn’t aim for WoW in general (by far the worst community of people I’ve met for all the MMOs I’ve played with).
If you aren’t a gamer, you might not want to troll MMOs for a soulmate…you’ll end up reading books or watching TV all the time while your soulmate is playing…
Most people meet because of “chemistry”, they’re seeking romance, sex, looks or sometimes money. People who have common interests, hobbies and views are much more likely to get along better. Cooperation works better than conflict – “opposites attract” is nonsense.
I’m not saying relationships can be quantified in a mathematical formula, but of the time a couple spends together while awake, about 95% is spent talking, less than 5% on sex. Romance dies, sex gets boring, looks fade, and money has nothing to offer emotionally. If you don’t like or get along with the person and don’t want to do things together, it’s never going to work long term. The best marriages I’ve seen were between friends.
Indeed, my husband and I met in a “social media” experience of the day — sitting in line next to each other waiting for hours to add a much-needed lab to our university schedules for that quarter. We got to talking, and found out we had a lot in common, but also a lot that was new and interesting about each other.
We were lab partners in that lab, and by the end of it we were ready to kill each other. But the friendship, based on common ground held, and eventually he started inviting me over for lunch and I started inviting him over for dinner. After we agreed to some ground rules about never trying to work that closely with each other again, the relationship took off. We just celebrated our 33rd wedding anniversary. (Even now, when we plan some home improvement or other project, there are his tasks and my tasks, and we make a point of admiring each others’ work without “helping”.)
And all this because of a casual conversation, waiting in line because of a university screw-up. Nowadays we might get into that casual conversation online…
And don’t worry about the massively skewed M/F ratio in many video games, especially FPS versions. Gay marriage is being recognized in a growing number of states.
I met someone face to face once. It was awful !
I’ve corresponded with some nice folks online.
Then they meet me.